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Curious
Aug 12, 2005 22:55:27 GMT -5
Post by kelley on Aug 12, 2005 22:55:27 GMT -5
Do you use your home address when corresponding to someone on death row? I read awhile back PO boxes were not allowed .. is that true?
Maybe i am being overly cautious .. but having younger people living with me ... well i just wondered if anyone else shared these feelings.
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 0:28:01 GMT -5
Post by moghirl on Aug 13, 2005 0:28:01 GMT -5
Hi Kelley, I answered yes to your question. Perhaps living across the pond in the UK makes me feel a long way from the US, but I did not feel worried about giving my home address out. I would perhaps have been more concerned about giving an address to someone in general population who could be due out, in say a few years or so, than to a death row prisoner. As things have turned out, the person I write to would be more than welcome to arrive at my door. I understand your question though, because you have no way of telling what the person is really like, until you get to know them, and to get to that stage means corresponding
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 0:29:23 GMT -5
Post by moghirl on Aug 13, 2005 0:29:23 GMT -5
PS, am not about the PO Boxes
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 0:40:29 GMT -5
Post by jayden24 on Aug 13, 2005 0:40:29 GMT -5
Everyone I correspond with in the system has my home address. I guess I have never worried about it. It's a sad fact that even the ones who are wrongfully convicted rarely get out especially if there is no DNA to exonerate them.
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 7:20:59 GMT -5
Post by sclcookie on Aug 13, 2005 7:20:59 GMT -5
P.O. Box, unless, I know the person. However, anyone can find your home address regardless.....
hugggz, Suzanne
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 7:46:44 GMT -5
Post by CCADP on Aug 13, 2005 7:46:44 GMT -5
A lot of people have concerns and a lot use a PO box when writing at first. Most people find they become comfortable as the friendship goes on and usually end up using their home address for ease of use...
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 10:49:29 GMT -5
Post by janet on Aug 13, 2005 10:49:29 GMT -5
I always have used my home address. Honestly, I have never given it a second thought and never had any problem.
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Lauren
Doin' Time
I got a bullet with your name and todays date...
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 10:54:28 GMT -5
Post by Lauren on Aug 13, 2005 10:54:28 GMT -5
I’m currently using a PO Box and I haven’t had any of my letters returned because of this.
The reason I used one is because I wasn’t allowed to give out my home address not because I was scared about giving it out… although, I was slightly concerned at first about the letters getting into the wrong hands so it was a small comfort knowing my resi address wasn’t quoted!
I’m moving out soon, phew!, and will definitely give my penpal my new address….
Ramble over!! ;D
L x
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 13:20:04 GMT -5
Post by antideathpen67 on Aug 13, 2005 13:20:04 GMT -5
I always gave out my home address...never had any problems at all.
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 19:35:33 GMT -5
Post by kelley on Aug 13, 2005 19:35:33 GMT -5
wow ... thanks for all the honest answers.
Kinda surprised some of you didn't even let it cross your mind. Maybe i am just overly cautious ... i think it would be great to find a penpal .. i love mail, seems anymore my mailbox is just stuffed with junk mail and bills.
So .. how did you all meet or get hooked up with your penpals? .. bet there are lots of stories out there. Did you just blindly choose? Was it something about their bio? Was it location?
Lots of people to choose from .. was it hard to pick one?
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Curious
Aug 13, 2005 21:02:55 GMT -5
Post by paleone on Aug 13, 2005 21:02:55 GMT -5
here's the thing...and some of my prisoners even told me this themselves....i work in a profession where i know fraud is a lot more common than people know...it isn't even that i wouldnt trust my actual penpal....but think about how many hands your letter goes through....it's possible more than on once it gets to the mail room...and who knows who REALLY works there...just because they work for a prison doesnt mean they are "good guys" though society thinks so....not to mention that many prisoners have bunkies...i have had penpals actually tell me that bunkies had stolen their loved ones' addresses trying to "get with them".....never happened to me..but still...on top of even that...what if you have an incompetitant (sp?) person delivering the mail and gives it to the cell next door by accident...you NEVER know what can happen...on top of that, you have the fact that the CO's do shake downs and they toss their stuff in their cell around...there are many potential hands that could touch our letters...
i have penpals that actually do know my personal address (because i was put on their visitor's lists and you need that on it)...but they dont even want me to put it on my letters.
so i do it not out of fear for my own penpals....but you can never be too cautious with the other x number of hands who could touch the letter...
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Lauren
Doin' Time
I got a bullet with your name and todays date...
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Curious
Aug 14, 2005 12:56:33 GMT -5
Post by Lauren on Aug 14, 2005 12:56:33 GMT -5
here's the thing...and some of my prisoners even told me this themselves....i work in a profession where i know fraud is a lot more common than people know...it isn't even that i wouldnt trust my actual penpal....but think about how many hands your letter goes through....it's possible more than on once it gets to the mail room...and who knows who REALLY works there...just because they work for a prison doesnt mean they are "good guys" though society thinks so....not to mention that many prisoners have bunkies...i have had penpals actually tell me that bunkies had stolen their loved ones' addresses trying to "get with them".....never happened to me..but still...on top of even that...what if you have an incompetitant (sp?) person delivering the mail and gives it to the cell next door by accident...you NEVER know what can happen...on top of that, you have the fact that the CO's do shake downs and they toss their stuff in their cell around...there are many potential hands that could touch our letters... i have penpals that actually do know my personal address (because i was put on their visitor's lists and you need that on it)...but they dont even want me to put it on my letters. so i do it not out of fear for my own penpals....but you can never be too cautious with the other x number of hands who could touch the letter... I agree with Paleone, that's what I was trying to say! Even when I write my letters, I'm totally aware that it's not just my penpal that's going to read it...
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Curious
Aug 14, 2005 16:38:07 GMT -5
Post by sclcookie on Aug 14, 2005 16:38:07 GMT -5
wow ... thanks for all the honest answers. Kinda surprised some of you didn't even let it cross your mind. Maybe i am just overly cautious ... i think it would be great to find a penpal .. i love mail, seems anymore my mailbox is just stuffed with junk mail and bills. So .. how did you all meet or get hooked up with your penpals? .. bet there are lots of stories out there. Did you just blindly choose? Was it something about their bio? Was it location? Lots of people to choose from .. was it hard to pick one? As far as DR penpals are concerned, my husband and I chose the first Texas DR inmate on our website to write to, and who was of course, Richard Cartwright. Some of the others we write to were refered by him and others. We don't chose the inmates we write by guilt or innocense claims, we write both. hugggz, Suzanne
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Curious
Aug 18, 2005 12:05:03 GMT -5
Post by legalbeaver on Aug 18, 2005 12:05:03 GMT -5
All my penfriends have my home address and I write to prisoners in general population and on DR; one in TX just made parole but I doubt that he will be showing up on my door step any time soon.
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