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Post by gill on Jun 6, 2005 10:10:27 GMT -5
I write to 2 inmates in the same prison - I did this without realising at the time. I'm a tad worried they might realise I write to both of them, and think less of me. Is that possible? Gill
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Post by lene on Jun 6, 2005 13:05:27 GMT -5
How much they can communicate depends on which facility they are in, and also if they are housed in the same section/pod in the prison. But they can find out that you write both of them, so it may be a good idea that you tell them. I don't think they would think less of you though.
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Post by CCADP on Jun 6, 2005 13:08:02 GMT -5
They won't think less. Some may worry about confidentiality issues; ie other prisoners finding out their personal or legal business; but its better to be straight up. As some of these people have few personal relationships; jealousy can be an issue too. I'd say best is to tell both u have another friend in the same facility; but say that you completely respect each's privacy; and for that reason you don't even have to tell each other who the other penpal is. or u can tell them but reassure that all things discussed between u is respected as private and not repeated...
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kaspa
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Post by kaspa on Jun 7, 2005 21:17:02 GMT -5
I speak from experience in this one... I was writing to a guy at UCI and for some reason he stopped writing... after many years (6 years I think) I decided to write to another inmate at UCI (no idea why I chose UCI to find another DR inmate to write to) but anyway.. I did and after 12 months this other guy out of the blue writes to me... for issues already mentioned I would not on principle write to 2 guys in the same institute... but I certainly did tell both of them the situation and give them the opportunity to let me know how they felt...one was ok the other was not so ok.. (neither know who the other is though and I made it clear I was not about to give out that info to either of them) but as we had had that long history he decided to trust me enough to know I am not writing to mess with them. We agreed that our friendship is just that...ours.
In saying all that I would recommend you tell them you are writing to someone else you need to be up front and honest with that.
Good luck
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