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Post by ukfoto on May 8, 2005 4:58:47 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
I would be very interested to hear other members views advice etc on the subject of helping their individual D R pen pal.
Do others try to help in any practicle ways with their friends cases or do they see their role as support by just being a pen pal/friend etc ?
If you do help what advice, organisations contacts etc do you have ?
As someone very new to all this I feel I could and should do more to help my friend as his voice on the outside.
I worry about not doing anything and I worry about doing the wrong thing by my lack of knowledge !!!
Thanks UKFOTO
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jj
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Post by jj on May 8, 2005 7:35:58 GMT -5
One of the things I try to do is help keep guys informed of their appeals. My husband has been asking me lately to look up this guys case, or that guys case because they havn't heard from their lawyer in a long time and don't know anything about what's going on.
This is something I have been looking into is trying to help keep guys on dr informed of their case that don't have the best of lawyers.
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angel
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Post by angel on May 8, 2005 7:42:08 GMT -5
I can tell you from experience that you being their voice on the outside can make a huge difference! I called Tina Church, who helped so much with Michael. I e-mialed various organizations, made phone calls and wrote letters. I put his info up on here and that generated tons of help! Listing my e-mail and phone # as a contact, I learned just how many wonderful people are in this world. People called wanting to help, or they would e-mail sending their support! Alot of good came from that, however with the good always comes the bad, right? I did recieve two phone calls that were very disturbing and some hate e-mail, but it was worth it! Michael got a stay and it has been over a year now. That was close to two years ago! I am hoping and praying that things go well and it truly is amazing because I thought I was going to lose my best friend in the world, and this stay and appeal was wonderful news!! It has been an emotional roller coaster, and sometimes you get tired and sick from all the worry and stress, but there's always hope.....that is what keeps us going!
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angel
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Post by angel on May 8, 2005 8:07:50 GMT -5
A truly wonderful man, Ward helped tremendously in Michaels case as well! He is the very best!!!!
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Post by tulla63 on May 11, 2005 17:04:41 GMT -5
A truly wonderful man, Ward helped tremendously in Michaels case as well! He is the very best!!!! Hi Angel! In addition to the other good advises you've been given by the other members, I just thought I would mention that sometimes its a good idea to establish contact with the lawyer if you have not already done so. That is: If the lawyer is cooperative and supportive.....Which isn't always the case! Love, Turid |
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Post by janet on May 12, 2005 10:00:32 GMT -5
I agree completely with what others on this post have said. Offering emotional support, a voice of reason in times of fear and lack of knowledge, and always maintaining a relationship of trust and truth is paramount. Little things ... remembering a birthday or special occasion and establishing contact with family members or friends means a lot, with the caveat being maintaining confidentiality. Family members are so often 'kept in the dark' regarding legal proceedings that it's cruel. As was mentioned earlier, it's a huge bonus developing a relationship with the legal cousel involved ... so often, these men and women are not informed of the status of their appeals, etc. This is such a source of anxiety ... the not knowing. I believe, also, simply asking those we write to what we might do, opens the door to an authentic reply. They simply must know we're willing to go the extra mile.
Janet
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