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Post by andie on Jun 28, 2008 18:53:14 GMT -5
The way I look at it if someone is good to me they couldn't do bad things to themselves or others-- like make a stupid decision that not only could cost them their life as well but pain to their family members. respect, love, trust, being good has always been a two way thing for me.............. If one of my family members were to murder someone or even get convicted for something such as drugs lets just say they wouldn't be family anymore. Seriously? Wow. I believe if you treat somebody bad, your going to get yours someday. If you make huge mistakes, there are and should be consequences. I think people should own up to their mistakes, and live with the consequences. In other words, some people belong in prison! I wouldn't be praising a family member if they got busted for drugs, or did something even worse, and got caught. But I wouldn't dis-own a loved one if he or she messed up their own life. If I love someone, and someone is good to me, then what good would it do to disown them because of their mistakes? Especially if that person is already suffering. Unfortunately, many inmates families do think like you Andie. Which is why many get no visitors or phone calls and live in complete isolation, because their family has dis-owned them, or never been there for them in the first place.
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Mo-DAWG
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Post by Mo-DAWG on Jun 28, 2008 18:56:09 GMT -5
The way I look at it if someone is good to me they couldn't do bad things to themselves or others-- like make a stupid decision that not only could cost them their life as well but pain to their family members. respect, love, trust, being good has always been a two way thing for me.............. you know andie ... REAL love REAL respect ... TRUE trust and goodness means giving without expecting but never taking without giving .... you ll be a lot richer if you learn to have this in you ...
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Post by justme on Jun 28, 2008 21:59:23 GMT -5
I would love my son or daughter no matter what they did - 100 percent unconditionally. I would not like what they did...but my love for them would override anything else. As a pro, I guess that makes me a hypocrite (although I would prefer just "human") - but I am just being honest. I would probably take on a lot of the guilt myself..thinking I had not done everything I could to raise them right.
FYI - I share alot with my kids. But I do not go into my views on some of the issues like the death penalty or abortion. They may can sense where I am on the issues, but I want their opinions on those kind of issues to be their own, not something I drilled into them.
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Post by briseis on Jun 29, 2008 8:02:43 GMT -5
I would love my son or daughter no matter what they did - 100 percent unconditionally. I would not like what they did...but my love for them would override anything else. As a pro, I guess that makes me a hypocrite (although I would prefer just "human") - but I am just being honest. I would probably take on a lot of the guilt myself..thinking I had not done everything I could to raise them right. FYI - I share alot with my kids. But I do not go into my views on some of the issues like the death penalty or abortion. They may can sense where I am on the issues, but I want their opinions on those kind of issues to be their own, not something I drilled into them. Interesting thoughts. And probably another reason I am Anti. If my son did something so terrible as murder, I too would feel unbearable guilt for the same reasons as you. And therefore even further guilt if he faced the Death Penalty. I could not support putting another parent through that torture. Especially as it achieves nothing good.
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